Tuesday October 16, 2007
Okay, Ya know what...I got a date. No goofy not that kind of date, I'm married. I got a date for my Surgery! Yaaaayyyy! No more waiting and no more wondering! I have a date and things are mooooving forward. Yay Yay Yay!
The dates are, drum roll please...........Consult on the 31st(Yes, that would be Halloween :( )
and surgery on Nov. 2nd.
K, now how often when we are given dates for things do they ever work out to be the best possible choices, Never! So with that thought in mind I was going to be open minded about it. After all can you really argue over the perfectness of the dates for a very serious and possibly life preserving surgery? Ha, the answer would be yes. Why, because we are human and we like things to be a certain way. But even you ya say, even after all this. And of course the answer is still yes. Why, same reason...because I am still human. Although cancer can have a tendency to make you feel subhuman at times. you really aren't , you will always be human no mater what! Having cancer also didn't make me become a super perfect human being like some may suspect it would. I am still just me. I do look at a lot of things differently now, not really differently. I have always been an open, honest, caring, hard working, giving, generous and loving person all of my life. I just look at things differently and my priorities, it is like I have a different feeling about them. I mean they really can't change that much...my priorities have always been good ones: God, My family, husband, children, pets and my home. I just look at achieving them differently I guess. My time has become more precious to me: seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks and almost feel more of a sense of urgency about some things and a sense of unimportance on other things that I probably would have used to have spent more time on or atleast been stressed out about more. I suppose being in Chicago on Halloween won't be sooo bad. It could be worse, like later. It could have been on Thanksgiving or over Christmas! I can think of much worse than having to be gone on Halloween, like having to be gone forever never having had the surgery in time!!! Now see that's when I am sold on whatever date is the quickest!!! Now, that's something ya really can't argue with! I can see it, I know this answer you just don't always feel it! That's what I meant in the other blog about sometimes your feelings inside are just different. That's a good example of what I meant!
Anyway,
Time to notify everyone about the surgery dates. I know everyone will be excited like me about finally having dates set! I think I will rest a bit better with having this information!
Lately I have been a bit more stressed than usual. Not really sure why. Have been trying to think on it and look into it but I am not coming up with any answers. If I say anything to anyone else about times like this people have a tendency to say things lie "of course you are, you have a lot on your plate. You're a mom and you have to deal with this Cancer, I don't know how you're doing it. I don't think I could do it and especially wouldn't be able to be as positive and brave about it as you have been."
Then I could just answer by "nodding my head and saying, "well, it is just what I have to do, I don't have any other choice really".
So see I just basically had the conversation all by myself with most of my friends. Oh especially if I tell myself "Things will get better I am sure, it's okay".
Okay, now back to what I was saying...I don't know why I am , when I figure it out I'm sure you will be the next to know after me!
My usual stressors:
Having a lot of tasks to do at once (being in the weeds
), being sick, Finances, Security, plans not working out
after diagnosis stressors:
Is the cancer going to spread, will something happen to me before I get this tumor out of me, Am I going to be around to see all of my children grow up and go off to college. Will I see them marry and have grand-children first too, or is that being selfish of me and asking for too much for myself?, will my family make it alright without me and be on the same path they were on before anything happened to me, will I affect their life too much in a negative way.
okay, wanted to jot them down, so when I do figure it out I can look back and see if I already knew the answer all along! Ugh, right now I feel like crying. The after diagnosis stressors list got to me. Possibly one of those things then. Ha, maybe we are halfway finished with figuring out the what is going on with me lately issues!
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
I'm having surgery. again...Again!
October Thurs. 11, 2007
Okay, an writing this on Wed Oct 17, 2007 (12:25 am) from TC Thompsons Children's Hospital ER. I am here with Marley she has pretty bad abdominal pain. Thank the Lord there were no vomiting sick children in the waiting area.!! Yaaayyyy! Actually we were the only people in the the ER waiting area. Now that is a miracle!
Okay, We heard back from Dr. Agulnik today. He had attended the thoracic surgeons meeting this past Wednesday and the general consensus was to do surgery to remove the tumor from my lung. So we needed to cal Dr. De Hoyas' office and schedule the surgery in Chicago, at Northwestern Univ.
Wow, what a whirlwind to go through. I feel like I just got thrown out of the funnel of a tornado. Just going round and round and round waiting to be thrown into a certain direction. Well, now, once again we feel as if we have the direction set for us and we are starting down the path of planning ahead. Now if it will just stay the same direction, I'll feel more than great about it. But I am certain it will this time. Surgery...no turning back. So let's all jump onto the surgery bandwagon and be excited about it. Maybe there is a class called tumor removal surgeries do' and don'ts. Maybe I should write a blog about that as I go. Hey, that could be a good thing. Since I am going to be going through the ups, successes with it and the downs, pitfalls of it all I might as well write about it and maybe others can learn from my situation. Ok, now I feel like I have something to go through surgery for, well, like I needed something more than living longer. Oh that is funny how we look at things sometimes. Well not really how we look at things but more like how we feel about things. Ha, The good Lord made us all and we each have different things that make us tick a different way! Now isn't that something wonderful and amazing! I think it is! Now about the surgery I am just repeat a million times to myself: I know I can I know I can I know I can, that is really all I can do since the rest is up to God!
Love love love
Me
Okay, an writing this on Wed Oct 17, 2007 (12:25 am) from TC Thompsons Children's Hospital ER. I am here with Marley she has pretty bad abdominal pain. Thank the Lord there were no vomiting sick children in the waiting area.!! Yaaayyyy! Actually we were the only people in the the ER waiting area. Now that is a miracle!
Okay, We heard back from Dr. Agulnik today. He had attended the thoracic surgeons meeting this past Wednesday and the general consensus was to do surgery to remove the tumor from my lung. So we needed to cal Dr. De Hoyas' office and schedule the surgery in Chicago, at Northwestern Univ.
Wow, what a whirlwind to go through. I feel like I just got thrown out of the funnel of a tornado. Just going round and round and round waiting to be thrown into a certain direction. Well, now, once again we feel as if we have the direction set for us and we are starting down the path of planning ahead. Now if it will just stay the same direction, I'll feel more than great about it. But I am certain it will this time. Surgery...no turning back. So let's all jump onto the surgery bandwagon and be excited about it. Maybe there is a class called tumor removal surgeries do' and don'ts. Maybe I should write a blog about that as I go. Hey, that could be a good thing. Since I am going to be going through the ups, successes with it and the downs, pitfalls of it all I might as well write about it and maybe others can learn from my situation. Ok, now I feel like I have something to go through surgery for, well, like I needed something more than living longer. Oh that is funny how we look at things sometimes. Well not really how we look at things but more like how we feel about things. Ha, The good Lord made us all and we each have different things that make us tick a different way! Now isn't that something wonderful and amazing! I think it is! Now about the surgery I am just repeat a million times to myself: I know I can I know I can I know I can, that is really all I can do since the rest is up to God!
Love love love
Me
Saturday, October 6, 2007
From NO phone calls to NO phone!
Tuesday October 2, 2007 (writing on Saturday 6 looking back from memory)
Well Dr. Agulnik never returned the call Yesterday. It happens!
What else, Still feeling rotten! Nauseous all the time 24/7.
I try not to stress at all. There is nothing to stress about! Everything is in God's hands and he will take care of it all. Roaming surgery schedules, Dr. visits, opinions and plans and even how I feel about it!
Sometimes for a few moments thoughts start crossing my mind like that I need to read more about it and research it (this would be compulsively, not in a healthy way, almost like in desperation!) Then I will feel like I am not in control of it and it begins to scare me a little because I don't have any say so or control over my life right now. As we all know, this is not a fun place to spend your time, emotionally speaking! Then I tell myself NO! NO! NO! You are not going to do this at ALL! Not even for one second! God is in charge, not you, so get over it! He can do a much better job of it than you can! Then the thoughts, insecurities and fears melt away...I never have spent much time here at all ever since the beginning. It is just recent that these feelings have even came to exist. I know that it is because things aren't progressing as quickly as I had hoped for. I do know, however, that everything will happen when it is suppose to! In God's time. If I were to jump into this with guns blazing that somehow I just know I could mess it all up!
As I see it he is much more qualified to deal with it then I am and here are the reasons why:
1. He gave me life, he can obviously do with it whatever he wishes!
2. He wants what is best for me, more so than any human being could even begin to comprehend!
3. He is my Father and fathers take care of their children and would never steer them wrong.
4. He knows how things will go and has already decided
5. He will always be with me no matter what and will never leave my side!
6. He has been through cancer before, more times than I can even count! Which makes him the Ultimate Expert!
7. I don't have to go through it alone ever! He will carry me through it and has been since before I even found out this cancer existed inside of me!
There are tons more reasons here but I think this gives the main gist of how I feel!
The only time I even begin to fall apart even the slightest is when I think about my future and my children and their future! Because I want more than anything I have ever wanted in my life, to be in it with them! I have always wished for that and prayed about it, that God would allow me a long lifetime to see my children grow up and to see them start their families and to have Grandchildren! Ever since I found out I was pregnant with Marley it has always been a fear of mine that I wouldn't live to see her grow up and it worsened after I had 3 children to think about! I don't know if it is just me or all mothers that have that fear. For the most part it seemed kind of a senseless fear, not totally irrational though. Of course a mother wants to live to raise her children and to have Grandchildren and all. The thought of it would just really tear me up from time to time though. It makes me wonder if somehow I just knew something would happen that could take it all away from me.
You know how they say sometimes people just know what their future will be way before they ever even get to it and they kind of live differently because of it, never realizing it of course, until it happens. I feel like you could say that about me if it happened that way. I always put my children first. I have spent all of my time with my children since I had them. I din't work outside of the house knowing that the time I spent with them was more important than anything else I could ever accomplish in life. I have truly cherished almost every moment and everyday that I have had with them, like really cherished. I thank God everyday I wake up and see my children just for the simple fact that I have my children in my life. The fact that i have my children has always completed me. I could have never wanted anything else more than I wanted each of them! I conciously think these things all of the time. I constantly tell my children how I feel about them and several times a day give them lots of kisses and hugs! These types of things. I don't see all mothers doing this. I do though and I even think about these things on a daily basis. This is what I am talking about! I guess maybe someday I will know and today I will just keep thanking God for everyday he gives me with my children!
* Aside 1 - Marley texted me from school from someone else's phone...because she loaned hers to a girl named Megan at school and Megan told her that the phone got taken up by some teacher, which one? The really large one she said! Now that we know that was all a lie I think every really large lady everywhere should be highly offended and outraged, I tell you, OUTRAGED! What a little sneak! I am thankful for my children that I was blessed with to raise. I will be adding Megan to my prayer list! This upset me a lot!
This is how I contact Marley in case of an emergency! She is also my first contact for my other two children as well! If something were to happen and George was with me I would need to call her and have her get her brother and sister and she would have to make arrangements for them to stay with friends or family through whatever would be going on. Also if things were to not go so well I would be able to contact her immediately to talk with her. I would want this for her and for myself if I ever thought my life was coming to an end. I am not upset with Marley, she made a simple mistake. She misjudges someones intentions and their character. Even us adults get caught of guard with that from time to time! She is still a child and she is learning all of these lessons for the first time. I know she would never let this happen again after all this! Which is how children learn, from experience. As long as she does learn the lesson she is exactly where she should be in life. Living, learning and growing. Nothing more, nothing less!
*Aside 2 - Melanie made the Middle school soccer team! Yaaay! Go Mel!!!!!
Well Dr. Agulnik never returned the call Yesterday. It happens!
What else, Still feeling rotten! Nauseous all the time 24/7.
I try not to stress at all. There is nothing to stress about! Everything is in God's hands and he will take care of it all. Roaming surgery schedules, Dr. visits, opinions and plans and even how I feel about it!
Sometimes for a few moments thoughts start crossing my mind like that I need to read more about it and research it (this would be compulsively, not in a healthy way, almost like in desperation!) Then I will feel like I am not in control of it and it begins to scare me a little because I don't have any say so or control over my life right now. As we all know, this is not a fun place to spend your time, emotionally speaking! Then I tell myself NO! NO! NO! You are not going to do this at ALL! Not even for one second! God is in charge, not you, so get over it! He can do a much better job of it than you can! Then the thoughts, insecurities and fears melt away...I never have spent much time here at all ever since the beginning. It is just recent that these feelings have even came to exist. I know that it is because things aren't progressing as quickly as I had hoped for. I do know, however, that everything will happen when it is suppose to! In God's time. If I were to jump into this with guns blazing that somehow I just know I could mess it all up!
As I see it he is much more qualified to deal with it then I am and here are the reasons why:
1. He gave me life, he can obviously do with it whatever he wishes!
2. He wants what is best for me, more so than any human being could even begin to comprehend!
3. He is my Father and fathers take care of their children and would never steer them wrong.
4. He knows how things will go and has already decided
5. He will always be with me no matter what and will never leave my side!
6. He has been through cancer before, more times than I can even count! Which makes him the Ultimate Expert!
7. I don't have to go through it alone ever! He will carry me through it and has been since before I even found out this cancer existed inside of me!
There are tons more reasons here but I think this gives the main gist of how I feel!
The only time I even begin to fall apart even the slightest is when I think about my future and my children and their future! Because I want more than anything I have ever wanted in my life, to be in it with them! I have always wished for that and prayed about it, that God would allow me a long lifetime to see my children grow up and to see them start their families and to have Grandchildren! Ever since I found out I was pregnant with Marley it has always been a fear of mine that I wouldn't live to see her grow up and it worsened after I had 3 children to think about! I don't know if it is just me or all mothers that have that fear. For the most part it seemed kind of a senseless fear, not totally irrational though. Of course a mother wants to live to raise her children and to have Grandchildren and all. The thought of it would just really tear me up from time to time though. It makes me wonder if somehow I just knew something would happen that could take it all away from me.
You know how they say sometimes people just know what their future will be way before they ever even get to it and they kind of live differently because of it, never realizing it of course, until it happens. I feel like you could say that about me if it happened that way. I always put my children first. I have spent all of my time with my children since I had them. I din't work outside of the house knowing that the time I spent with them was more important than anything else I could ever accomplish in life. I have truly cherished almost every moment and everyday that I have had with them, like really cherished. I thank God everyday I wake up and see my children just for the simple fact that I have my children in my life. The fact that i have my children has always completed me. I could have never wanted anything else more than I wanted each of them! I conciously think these things all of the time. I constantly tell my children how I feel about them and several times a day give them lots of kisses and hugs! These types of things. I don't see all mothers doing this. I do though and I even think about these things on a daily basis. This is what I am talking about! I guess maybe someday I will know and today I will just keep thanking God for everyday he gives me with my children!
* Aside 1 - Marley texted me from school from someone else's phone...because she loaned hers to a girl named Megan at school and Megan told her that the phone got taken up by some teacher, which one? The really large one she said! Now that we know that was all a lie I think every really large lady everywhere should be highly offended and outraged, I tell you, OUTRAGED! What a little sneak! I am thankful for my children that I was blessed with to raise. I will be adding Megan to my prayer list! This upset me a lot!
This is how I contact Marley in case of an emergency! She is also my first contact for my other two children as well! If something were to happen and George was with me I would need to call her and have her get her brother and sister and she would have to make arrangements for them to stay with friends or family through whatever would be going on. Also if things were to not go so well I would be able to contact her immediately to talk with her. I would want this for her and for myself if I ever thought my life was coming to an end. I am not upset with Marley, she made a simple mistake. She misjudges someones intentions and their character. Even us adults get caught of guard with that from time to time! She is still a child and she is learning all of these lessons for the first time. I know she would never let this happen again after all this! Which is how children learn, from experience. As long as she does learn the lesson she is exactly where she should be in life. Living, learning and growing. Nothing more, nothing less!
*Aside 2 - Melanie made the Middle school soccer team! Yaaay! Go Mel!!!!!
Hold that surgery...again?!
Monday 1, 2007
Dr. Agulnik called this afternoon!
The pathology report is back. It confirmed the diagnosis of synovial sarcoma. They also said it was very susceptible to chemotherapy.
He stated that he wanted us to come back up to Chicago for 3 months of chemotherapy. We were still of the mindset that we were going to be doing a surgery! So, it was like say what? The only certain thing about cancer is that every detail about it is uncertain and plans change almost daily. Just when you get in the mindset of one thing the Doctors say, then it quickly changes to something else! I thought I was used to that already and had learned to just go with the everchanging flow of it all. This time though I didn't do so well with that. I think because it has been almost two months from the diagnosis and I am ready to do something, anything about it really! I'm not against operating on myself ya know! Yeah, don't think I'd need surgery if I was willing to that, Can you say straight jacket?
Anyway, He said he would call back later and we could all talk more about it. So we'll see!
Have no idea about the stage yet. Wow, didn't even think about it at all. Crazy huh? I guess since that was the first thing I wanted to know right from the start and it wasn't going to be able to be answered for quite awhile, so I guess I pushed it out of my mind figuring when they knew I was certain they would tell me! I am just hoping for the best and praying about it. I'm not going to sweat the small stuff and in the big picture it is almost ALL small stuff, even now still! Never thought in a million years that if I had cancer that I would think that way about any detail about it. But I do. That comes from an unrelenting faith that God has a better plan for my life. Why better? why now say better? Because God wants good for everyone, including me! So...it has to be better, whatever it is, right? Right! Is it just that simple really? Yes, I answer that with an emphatic YES!
So we are waiting to hear more............................................
Dr. Agulnik called this afternoon!
The pathology report is back. It confirmed the diagnosis of synovial sarcoma. They also said it was very susceptible to chemotherapy.
He stated that he wanted us to come back up to Chicago for 3 months of chemotherapy. We were still of the mindset that we were going to be doing a surgery! So, it was like say what? The only certain thing about cancer is that every detail about it is uncertain and plans change almost daily. Just when you get in the mindset of one thing the Doctors say, then it quickly changes to something else! I thought I was used to that already and had learned to just go with the everchanging flow of it all. This time though I didn't do so well with that. I think because it has been almost two months from the diagnosis and I am ready to do something, anything about it really! I'm not against operating on myself ya know! Yeah, don't think I'd need surgery if I was willing to that, Can you say straight jacket?
Anyway, He said he would call back later and we could all talk more about it. So we'll see!
Have no idea about the stage yet. Wow, didn't even think about it at all. Crazy huh? I guess since that was the first thing I wanted to know right from the start and it wasn't going to be able to be answered for quite awhile, so I guess I pushed it out of my mind figuring when they knew I was certain they would tell me! I am just hoping for the best and praying about it. I'm not going to sweat the small stuff and in the big picture it is almost ALL small stuff, even now still! Never thought in a million years that if I had cancer that I would think that way about any detail about it. But I do. That comes from an unrelenting faith that God has a better plan for my life. Why better? why now say better? Because God wants good for everyone, including me! So...it has to be better, whatever it is, right? Right! Is it just that simple really? Yes, I answer that with an emphatic YES!
So we are waiting to hear more............................................
Monday, October 1, 2007
nausea is it so or is it noooo
Nausea. It is a relatively small word apparently. It means a lot to me though considering I go through waves of nausea all day everyday. Apparently I am not suppose to be having nausea. Has modern medicine not advanced far enough to understand that if a patient is nauseas that there is a reason for it. The answer is apparently No, it has not. And frankly it makes nauseas. Ha! Makes me think of the movie "The Doctor" with William Hurt 1991. I'm going to leave that there and for those who have seen it will understand that I am not wishing cancer on anyone, just the ability to understand what it is like to be a patient at the mercy of doctors. In particularly Doctors who have all the answers. I am glad that doctors have all the answers when we are discussing an extremely rare cancer. About 800 new patients each year and of those an extremely few amount have a primary tumor in the lung. I guess there have been so many few cases to go off of so maybe we just make it up as we go along and we tell the cancer that it may not be nauseas until we figure out if it can cause nausea or not. Good thing cancer listens to the experts becuase it doesn't listen to the patients who are hosting it and if it didn't listen to the Doctors cancer maybe considered as dangerous or life threatening.
While on this note. Let's discuss pain too. Why not just lay it all out there on the table and maybe another person with pain or nauseas may run across this and atleast say hey, my doctor is an expert at neausea and non-existent pain too!
While staying in the hospital (aug 9th - 18th 2007) I had went into the hospital with excrciating chest pain that went down into the mid stomach area. It also went up into my chest, around the heart. They couldn't find any reason for this and thought it could have been due to the severe reflux disease (in the chest) and in the stomach due to the blood backing up into my stomach thought caused by the numerous amounts of cysts that I have. I wasn't hurting constantly, although in th ebeginning I was hurting alot more consistently and frequently. We upped the nexxium and over time it seemed to get less and less. The pain in the stomach definitely comes and goes in cycles, probably around the cycles of my menstruating. I have frequently had a pain that would come on quickly and leave just as quickly in my head left front side and up over the top and sometimes beginning in the right lower back side of my head (where the head meets the neck.) I have had that pain for approx. 1 year now on and off.
The Biopsy
The biopsy went well and they checked afterward to make sure there were no problems after the procedure. Within a couple of hours after the biopsy I had pain in my lower left lung. I did not know it was the lower left lung. I just knew where I felt th epain and the Doctors in the hospital thought it could be from where they went straight through a muscle around my shoulder blad and down into the lung with the needle. They told me that they had seen that before and that it does go away over time that the injured muscle contracts tightly thus causing the pain. I don't know as I am not a doctor but it sounded reasonable to me! In the hospital they were giving me a low dose of morphine by putting it in my IV. When it was time to go home, I still had the pain...it was consisently worsening in the evenings and so that is th eonly time I was needing any pain medication for it.
Since I would be going home my husband asked what we would do about the pain that would come on...the hospitalist prescribed mepregan for this. After getting home the pain would come on in the evenings just the same and I was taking the mepregan. Sometimes I would have pain earlier now than the usual evenings so I would take mepregan twice a day. This wasn't really helping the pain. The mepregan didn't help the chest pain or the head pain at all. So I stopped taking it.
Now it was time to start throwing up profusely! I thought Oh! now here comes the real fun! Doctors have no idea why I am nauseas or throwing up. At this time I possibly had a bone tumor in my head. The one that I had, then didn't, then had, then didn't have it again. It just depended on what test they had just ran and what doctor I was talking to as to whether it existed or not. This was probably the most initial frustrating part of the whole ordeal to date. We have no idea what stage this cancer is in either. I am not even sure if I want to know. I think it means the same thing whether I know it or not. This is strange for me as I am the person who wants to know and have the answers for most things in life. If I don't know I look it up and read about it. It is hard to take it all in though when it is about you and it may not be the best of situations. So anyway, I began throwing up a lot. We were worried about me traveling that way considering it is even less fun to throw up for an entire car ride. So George got in touch with a PA that is a friend of ours and she wanted to see me before we went on our trip, she was planning on setting up the medication for the pain when I needed it as well as taking care of the nausea, this way I could travel to the experts without throwing up the entire flight and they would know more of what to do about these types of things for this type of cancer. She put me on 20 mg Kadian to take in the mornings and 5 mg oxycodone for breakthrough pain, when it came on in the evenings and she explained that I could take that in less amounts too, however much I needed up to a certain amount per day. Nausea, for this she prescribed zofran, 8 mg pills and I could do those the same way. A whole pill if it was really bad or I could break it up into quarters or halves, depending on how much I needed (apparently I can take up to 24 mgs of this a day.) Although I never took over 8 mgs and that was stretched out in quarters to half a pill at a time, which would be 2-4 mgs at a time up to 8 mgs a day is what I have been taking.
The Specialists in Chicago while voicing their concerns are that the oxycontin is probably causing the head pain, which he thinks just may be a headache broughton by the medicine. Even thought the head pain has been there on and off for over a year and I had just began the medicine the week before I was in his office, the same exact pain in the same place just more frequent now and with more intensity. Although it still isn't totally unbearable and it isn't usually extremely intolerable. It just hurts really bad, but usually briefly.While seeing him he changed it to oxycontin 5 mg for breakthrough and 10 mg oxcontin for regularly. Oh my gosh, can we say overkill. That medication actually causes me to have headaches a dull ache that just styas there as well as making me feel groggy. The whole point was low doses for when i really needed it and something that woudl still allow me to function at 100%. I think we have now totally missed the mark. As well as the doctor thinks I shouldn't be needing to take anything becuae I shouldn't be having any pain. I say of course I shouldn't need to take it the problem is that sometimes do need to take it!!
While on this note. Let's discuss pain too. Why not just lay it all out there on the table and maybe another person with pain or nauseas may run across this and atleast say hey, my doctor is an expert at neausea and non-existent pain too!
While staying in the hospital (aug 9th - 18th 2007) I had went into the hospital with excrciating chest pain that went down into the mid stomach area. It also went up into my chest, around the heart. They couldn't find any reason for this and thought it could have been due to the severe reflux disease (in the chest) and in the stomach due to the blood backing up into my stomach thought caused by the numerous amounts of cysts that I have. I wasn't hurting constantly, although in th ebeginning I was hurting alot more consistently and frequently. We upped the nexxium and over time it seemed to get less and less. The pain in the stomach definitely comes and goes in cycles, probably around the cycles of my menstruating. I have frequently had a pain that would come on quickly and leave just as quickly in my head left front side and up over the top and sometimes beginning in the right lower back side of my head (where the head meets the neck.) I have had that pain for approx. 1 year now on and off.
The Biopsy
The biopsy went well and they checked afterward to make sure there were no problems after the procedure. Within a couple of hours after the biopsy I had pain in my lower left lung. I did not know it was the lower left lung. I just knew where I felt th epain and the Doctors in the hospital thought it could be from where they went straight through a muscle around my shoulder blad and down into the lung with the needle. They told me that they had seen that before and that it does go away over time that the injured muscle contracts tightly thus causing the pain. I don't know as I am not a doctor but it sounded reasonable to me! In the hospital they were giving me a low dose of morphine by putting it in my IV. When it was time to go home, I still had the pain...it was consisently worsening in the evenings and so that is th eonly time I was needing any pain medication for it.
Since I would be going home my husband asked what we would do about the pain that would come on...the hospitalist prescribed mepregan for this. After getting home the pain would come on in the evenings just the same and I was taking the mepregan. Sometimes I would have pain earlier now than the usual evenings so I would take mepregan twice a day. This wasn't really helping the pain. The mepregan didn't help the chest pain or the head pain at all. So I stopped taking it.
Now it was time to start throwing up profusely! I thought Oh! now here comes the real fun! Doctors have no idea why I am nauseas or throwing up. At this time I possibly had a bone tumor in my head. The one that I had, then didn't, then had, then didn't have it again. It just depended on what test they had just ran and what doctor I was talking to as to whether it existed or not. This was probably the most initial frustrating part of the whole ordeal to date. We have no idea what stage this cancer is in either. I am not even sure if I want to know. I think it means the same thing whether I know it or not. This is strange for me as I am the person who wants to know and have the answers for most things in life. If I don't know I look it up and read about it. It is hard to take it all in though when it is about you and it may not be the best of situations. So anyway, I began throwing up a lot. We were worried about me traveling that way considering it is even less fun to throw up for an entire car ride. So George got in touch with a PA that is a friend of ours and she wanted to see me before we went on our trip, she was planning on setting up the medication for the pain when I needed it as well as taking care of the nausea, this way I could travel to the experts without throwing up the entire flight and they would know more of what to do about these types of things for this type of cancer. She put me on 20 mg Kadian to take in the mornings and 5 mg oxycodone for breakthrough pain, when it came on in the evenings and she explained that I could take that in less amounts too, however much I needed up to a certain amount per day. Nausea, for this she prescribed zofran, 8 mg pills and I could do those the same way. A whole pill if it was really bad or I could break it up into quarters or halves, depending on how much I needed (apparently I can take up to 24 mgs of this a day.) Although I never took over 8 mgs and that was stretched out in quarters to half a pill at a time, which would be 2-4 mgs at a time up to 8 mgs a day is what I have been taking.
The Specialists in Chicago while voicing their concerns are that the oxycontin is probably causing the head pain, which he thinks just may be a headache broughton by the medicine. Even thought the head pain has been there on and off for over a year and I had just began the medicine the week before I was in his office, the same exact pain in the same place just more frequent now and with more intensity. Although it still isn't totally unbearable and it isn't usually extremely intolerable. It just hurts really bad, but usually briefly.While seeing him he changed it to oxycontin 5 mg for breakthrough and 10 mg oxcontin for regularly. Oh my gosh, can we say overkill. That medication actually causes me to have headaches a dull ache that just styas there as well as making me feel groggy. The whole point was low doses for when i really needed it and something that woudl still allow me to function at 100%. I think we have now totally missed the mark. As well as the doctor thinks I shouldn't be needing to take anything becuae I shouldn't be having any pain. I say of course I shouldn't need to take it the problem is that sometimes do need to take it!!
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Unpredictable, Uncertain...24/7 Cancer Cancer Cancer
Wednesday Sept 19, 2007
Slept in, finally got some sleep even though I had to sleep sitting up so that I wouldn't cough up blood anymore. Woke up around 8:45 and it was time to call the Dr. (Dr. Yasko - Northwestern - orthopedic Surgeon) Ya, like that is the first person you think of when you start profusely coughing up blood. Hmmmm. Anyway, Dr. Yasko said to go to Northwestern Memorial ER to be seen and that he would come down there. Today was my free day (except for getting my medical reports to Dr. Agulnik's office) to go and see the sights of Chicago. Seems like it never fails. I thought whew after the Dr. appt on Tues. whew I wouldn't be re-doing all of my medical tests on Wednesday, so we will take a day to ourselves and enjoy the city. Hah Fat Chance...that doesn't happen in my life and now with Cancer, yeah right! The way things have gone lately it did cross my mind that just maybe this time from bleeding out that it was so that the Dr's here could possibly catch whatever would be wrong that would be causing all of the bleeding out and that we would finally know something more. We'll see.
Upon arriving to the ER we are asked to sign in we stand behind a couple of other people. Then finally it is our turn. The woman working front desk asks if we are there to see a Dr. She tells us that someone will be with us shortly have a seat in the waiting room. Oh my goodness, we sat down and across from us were 2 ladies that were very chicagoey. (chicagoey- when a chicagoan acts like they are from chicago lol) they were quite funny to listen to. Then another woman comes in and they see her at the front desk and have her take a seat. Then they call this woman back to triage and she comes out wearing a breathing mask. Oh NO! This isn't good. George goes up to the nurse and asks id it is something we need to be concerned about considering the woman sat next to me for 5 minutes. They informed him that they could not divulge someone elses condition. So he explains that we have to protect my lungs and I would more than likely be having a surgery sometime in the near future. They should really think of others when taking people into the emergency room. They should have known to put a mask on her when she told them why she was there! Oh well, too late now. So George gets a mask for me, I out it on and went outside for a few minutes to get some fresh air. I hate having to worry about things like this so much but it has just become part of my life. I worry when the kids are around me if they get sick. I wish I could just worry about them and take care of them like I used to be able to do.
We finally got called back and were put in a room. They started an IV. We spoke with the Dr. and had all of my medical records on us. We showed them the records and they reviewed them. We let them know that we had called the Dr. I was in Chicago to see the day before and explained about how we couldn't get ahole of him the night before and the Dr. actually made soem pretty funny jokes about how he hoped we saw a real Dr. and that wouldn't it be funny to find out we had to call the illionois state police to report someone practicing as a Dr thathad no medical degree. Oh it was actually too funny! He gave us some good laughs. The Dr's there were quite surprised that noone had orederd a 3d image of the "bone tumor" in my skull yet. He wondered how they could diagnose off of a bone scan and a ct. He said an MRI was in order to get a better look and that they would call my Dr. and he would be down soon, if he even existed at all, another funny joke. Maybe this Dr. missed his calling as a comedian or maybe it's like Dr by day comedian by night!
We waited quite awhile. They did another chest x-ray and drew some blood. I am getting to be an expert blood donor, donating for the Jackie cancer treatment cause!! I absolutely Hate needles. Apparently the ER was getting pretty busy, so they moved me to a pseudo room in the hallway. A bed against the wall with a curtain they could pull around the bed for privacy, considering there were several other people in the hallway in beds just like mine next to me! It's like on the tv shows when you watch a hospital show and all of the patients are lined up down the hallway! One difference though, we weren't paid actresses!
After awhile my Dr. showed up stating that he had been in a surgery. Probably should of told him he looked pretty good for just going through surgery. He doesn't seem to have the same kind of sense of humor as the Er doc. I would guess you have to have a good sense of humor to be an ER doc though! He said that they compared the chest x-ray and blood work with the ones they did the day before in hsi office and that they couldn't see anything that had changed. He said that he felt the tumor was bleeding out and that I would need to be in the ER anytime I began to bleed out just so they could monitor and try to control it. He said that I was seeing Dr. Agulnik in the morning and he would possibly be able to let us know more then. He signed me out. Then we waited a couple of more hours through shift change until the ER docs finally let us leave. Yes!
We went back to the hotel and changed for dinner. We had previously planned to dine out that night and I wanted to go ahead with the evening plans. Although we were going to have to take it easy. George had asked a nurse at the hospital where a nice place to eat nearby would be that wouldn't be too costly and she had suggested The Lux Cafe and that it overlooked M Avenue. So we went dressed for dinner and headed out to The Lux to check it out. Wow, it was a gorgeous place. I was very excited to be there for dinner even though I was feeling pretty week. George had offered several times to just eat in to make it easier on me. As I saw it we were already there and I am not going to feel well all the time but I do want to live as much as possible and to keep taking positive experiences in, moving forward and letting nothing stop me. Especially not cancer! I plan on winning and giving all of the glory of it to God alone for without him I would not be here! If you could beat Cancer with your attitude, I have almost already won! A few moments here and there are all I am willing to give up and those moments are becoming less and less, because everyday I am getting stronger mentally and emotionally! I am hopeful and I have faith that God is with me and always will be! It is mind blowing to think about how many people are pulling for me and praying for me and my family. I am so thankful and feel very blessed to be part of such a wonderful community on Signal Mountain and doubly blessed by my wonderful Tres Dias family! It brings tears to my eyes everytime I think about them. So many people have offered their help and support. If it wasn't for them I would not be here in Chicago right now getting the help I need or the support that I need to fight this battle. They are a huge source of encouragement for me.
The Lux Cafe is so stunning. They have this beautiful chandelier (yes, I took a picture. lol!), in that way I really don't care what people think anymore. So I took out a camera and photographed the beautiful chandelier and the painted walls and of the architecture of the room. I am appreciating every detail of my life not taking anything for granted! As soon as we sat down I had coughed and I knew I had coughed up a large clot. I was a little concerned but planned on ignoring it and pushing through. I went to the bathroom and made sure I wasn't about to start bleeding out really bad and waited for a few moments. It was okay and I went back to the table and updated George on what t was but that it seemed to be okay. So we went ahead and ordered. We both ordered soup and it had to be one of the best soups I have ever had. It was chicken based and it was superb. Then for dinner I ordered a carmel chicken dish with rice. It was really good. The waiter had todl me it was very spicy but that the chef could tone it down for me if I would like. That was a good idea so I agreed to that. We had a wonderful meal. George had a mushroom burger. His dinner was very good too.
After dinner we left and went walking through the city a bit. it was late by this time and the streets were mostly empty. We ran across a sweet woman walking her adoreable little puppy and we spoke to her for a few moments. We took a few pictures on the street that night but only 1 or 2 of us turned out and a few of the city streets. It was dark and the camera is really hard ot use on the night setting, any slight movement at all and the pictures skew really badly. That's okay though it was a really enjoyable night after a very worrisome and long day! On the street we noticed soem signs up on the light poles. They were put up by the Chicago PD and stated that the following night during certain times parking on the street was closed due to the filming of a movie. We tried to remember the times so we could go back and see if we could catch them filming the movie. We thought that would be pretty neat and something very different!
We headed back to the hotel and went to bed. I was so tired. It had been a long day. I was glad that we went ahead and went out to dinner and for a walk. It was a nice pick me up after the kind of night we had before and for the day that we had.
Slept in, finally got some sleep even though I had to sleep sitting up so that I wouldn't cough up blood anymore. Woke up around 8:45 and it was time to call the Dr. (Dr. Yasko - Northwestern - orthopedic Surgeon) Ya, like that is the first person you think of when you start profusely coughing up blood. Hmmmm. Anyway, Dr. Yasko said to go to Northwestern Memorial ER to be seen and that he would come down there. Today was my free day (except for getting my medical reports to Dr. Agulnik's office) to go and see the sights of Chicago. Seems like it never fails. I thought whew after the Dr. appt on Tues. whew I wouldn't be re-doing all of my medical tests on Wednesday, so we will take a day to ourselves and enjoy the city. Hah Fat Chance...that doesn't happen in my life and now with Cancer, yeah right! The way things have gone lately it did cross my mind that just maybe this time from bleeding out that it was so that the Dr's here could possibly catch whatever would be wrong that would be causing all of the bleeding out and that we would finally know something more. We'll see.
Upon arriving to the ER we are asked to sign in we stand behind a couple of other people. Then finally it is our turn. The woman working front desk asks if we are there to see a Dr. She tells us that someone will be with us shortly have a seat in the waiting room. Oh my goodness, we sat down and across from us were 2 ladies that were very chicagoey. (chicagoey- when a chicagoan acts like they are from chicago lol) they were quite funny to listen to. Then another woman comes in and they see her at the front desk and have her take a seat. Then they call this woman back to triage and she comes out wearing a breathing mask. Oh NO! This isn't good. George goes up to the nurse and asks id it is something we need to be concerned about considering the woman sat next to me for 5 minutes. They informed him that they could not divulge someone elses condition. So he explains that we have to protect my lungs and I would more than likely be having a surgery sometime in the near future. They should really think of others when taking people into the emergency room. They should have known to put a mask on her when she told them why she was there! Oh well, too late now. So George gets a mask for me, I out it on and went outside for a few minutes to get some fresh air. I hate having to worry about things like this so much but it has just become part of my life. I worry when the kids are around me if they get sick. I wish I could just worry about them and take care of them like I used to be able to do.
We finally got called back and were put in a room. They started an IV. We spoke with the Dr. and had all of my medical records on us. We showed them the records and they reviewed them. We let them know that we had called the Dr. I was in Chicago to see the day before and explained about how we couldn't get ahole of him the night before and the Dr. actually made soem pretty funny jokes about how he hoped we saw a real Dr. and that wouldn't it be funny to find out we had to call the illionois state police to report someone practicing as a Dr thathad no medical degree. Oh it was actually too funny! He gave us some good laughs. The Dr's there were quite surprised that noone had orederd a 3d image of the "bone tumor" in my skull yet. He wondered how they could diagnose off of a bone scan and a ct. He said an MRI was in order to get a better look and that they would call my Dr. and he would be down soon, if he even existed at all, another funny joke. Maybe this Dr. missed his calling as a comedian or maybe it's like Dr by day comedian by night!
We waited quite awhile. They did another chest x-ray and drew some blood. I am getting to be an expert blood donor, donating for the Jackie cancer treatment cause!! I absolutely Hate needles. Apparently the ER was getting pretty busy, so they moved me to a pseudo room in the hallway. A bed against the wall with a curtain they could pull around the bed for privacy, considering there were several other people in the hallway in beds just like mine next to me! It's like on the tv shows when you watch a hospital show and all of the patients are lined up down the hallway! One difference though, we weren't paid actresses!
After awhile my Dr. showed up stating that he had been in a surgery. Probably should of told him he looked pretty good for just going through surgery. He doesn't seem to have the same kind of sense of humor as the Er doc. I would guess you have to have a good sense of humor to be an ER doc though! He said that they compared the chest x-ray and blood work with the ones they did the day before in hsi office and that they couldn't see anything that had changed. He said that he felt the tumor was bleeding out and that I would need to be in the ER anytime I began to bleed out just so they could monitor and try to control it. He said that I was seeing Dr. Agulnik in the morning and he would possibly be able to let us know more then. He signed me out. Then we waited a couple of more hours through shift change until the ER docs finally let us leave. Yes!
We went back to the hotel and changed for dinner. We had previously planned to dine out that night and I wanted to go ahead with the evening plans. Although we were going to have to take it easy. George had asked a nurse at the hospital where a nice place to eat nearby would be that wouldn't be too costly and she had suggested The Lux Cafe and that it overlooked M Avenue. So we went dressed for dinner and headed out to The Lux to check it out. Wow, it was a gorgeous place. I was very excited to be there for dinner even though I was feeling pretty week. George had offered several times to just eat in to make it easier on me. As I saw it we were already there and I am not going to feel well all the time but I do want to live as much as possible and to keep taking positive experiences in, moving forward and letting nothing stop me. Especially not cancer! I plan on winning and giving all of the glory of it to God alone for without him I would not be here! If you could beat Cancer with your attitude, I have almost already won! A few moments here and there are all I am willing to give up and those moments are becoming less and less, because everyday I am getting stronger mentally and emotionally! I am hopeful and I have faith that God is with me and always will be! It is mind blowing to think about how many people are pulling for me and praying for me and my family. I am so thankful and feel very blessed to be part of such a wonderful community on Signal Mountain and doubly blessed by my wonderful Tres Dias family! It brings tears to my eyes everytime I think about them. So many people have offered their help and support. If it wasn't for them I would not be here in Chicago right now getting the help I need or the support that I need to fight this battle. They are a huge source of encouragement for me.
The Lux Cafe is so stunning. They have this beautiful chandelier (yes, I took a picture. lol!), in that way I really don't care what people think anymore. So I took out a camera and photographed the beautiful chandelier and the painted walls and of the architecture of the room. I am appreciating every detail of my life not taking anything for granted! As soon as we sat down I had coughed and I knew I had coughed up a large clot. I was a little concerned but planned on ignoring it and pushing through. I went to the bathroom and made sure I wasn't about to start bleeding out really bad and waited for a few moments. It was okay and I went back to the table and updated George on what t was but that it seemed to be okay. So we went ahead and ordered. We both ordered soup and it had to be one of the best soups I have ever had. It was chicken based and it was superb. Then for dinner I ordered a carmel chicken dish with rice. It was really good. The waiter had todl me it was very spicy but that the chef could tone it down for me if I would like. That was a good idea so I agreed to that. We had a wonderful meal. George had a mushroom burger. His dinner was very good too.
After dinner we left and went walking through the city a bit. it was late by this time and the streets were mostly empty. We ran across a sweet woman walking her adoreable little puppy and we spoke to her for a few moments. We took a few pictures on the street that night but only 1 or 2 of us turned out and a few of the city streets. It was dark and the camera is really hard ot use on the night setting, any slight movement at all and the pictures skew really badly. That's okay though it was a really enjoyable night after a very worrisome and long day! On the street we noticed soem signs up on the light poles. They were put up by the Chicago PD and stated that the following night during certain times parking on the street was closed due to the filming of a movie. We tried to remember the times so we could go back and see if we could catch them filming the movie. We thought that would be pretty neat and something very different!
We headed back to the hotel and went to bed. I was so tired. It had been a long day. I was glad that we went ahead and went out to dinner and for a walk. It was a nice pick me up after the kind of night we had before and for the day that we had.
Friday, August 31, 2007
Wow, I had no idea....
August 9th, 2007
I woke up one morning and got out of bed like I had done thousands of other times. There were not too many days left of summer with my children home from school with me. We had just the day before took my nephews to the Atlanta airport so they could fly back to San Diego after a two and a half week visit with us. First things first today...was Registration Day at the kid's schools so we would spend a few hours doing that early in the day. It was also time to head back to the pool for some final days of relaxation in between getting the kid's ready for school to start back. We would also need to be pulling out the kids fall/winter clothes and be sorting through them and replacing what we needed to replace, then there would also be the million mile long school supply lists that all three would have to have ready in time to start back to school with. The day really started like any other day had and the children were excited about finding out who their teachers were going to be for the new school year, so the house was a buzz with talk about things like that. I straightened up the house for a few minutes then decided I would lay down and rest for a short while on the couch and watch some morning television before I had to get ready to leave and head out to the schools to register the kiddos. I had been having to do that more and more frequently for quite a while now...having to rest up between any physical things that I would do. I had just been feeling run down and worn out which I thought was to be expected out of a busy mother of three children.
After about a half hour of resting I went and got ready to leave for registration. First stop was to my son's elementary school. He was so excited. He got to see his class assignment and we headed down to the classroom and met his teacher. I filled out the necessary ton of forms as usual. I introduced myself to his new teacher and we spoke for a few minutes. Then it was time to make the mad dash to the middle school so I could get my 8th grade daughter registered. My oldest daughter had a friend that was going to meet us at the middle school when we got there and then ride down to the high school with us to walk around and see where her classrooms were going to be from her schedule. We arrived at the middle school and her friend met us out front. After figuring out where to go we were on our way to her homeroom class to get her class schedule and meet her homeroom teacher. A few more tons of paper to fill out. While picking up the papers I realized that I wasn't feeling so well but wanted to hurry up and move along figuring I could probably get back home and rest for awhile after everything was taken care of but I had really thought that by the time we left the high school whatever it was probably would have passed by then..I'm going to finish this blog tomorrow.
Ok well it isn't tomorrow, but time to finish anyway even if it is a wekk later!!
Ok so I went to the high school with all 3 children in tow and the good friend of my 10th grade daughter's. We arrive and we walk around and find all of the classes on her schedule. Everyone is havign a good time. I am really not feeling too bad but I am not feeling perfectly well at this point either. Then we made it through and started down the road heading back to the mountain, to home when we passed my sister and my nephew with his friends heading to the High school. They are upcoming Freshman! How exciting. So I swung a u-ie and decided that we would go and let my daughter and her friend be the upcoming freshman's tour guide figureing it would be good fun for everybody. Decided I was hungry so I let them out and they ran ahead while I ran with my two younger children down the road and back to Hardee's where we picked up ham biscuits for my crew. We finished eating in the car and I thought I was feeling a little bit better after eating and we went into the school to look for the older kids and my sister. We found them and was waiting while my sister was introducing herself and my nephew to his technology teacher. At this point I realize that I am getting sicker by the minute and was quite worried about making it home with the children. So I told them we needed to go really fast and that I would have to get home and rest before going on with the day.
We piled into the car and headed home. The children were really disappointed that we weren't going on to the pool as planned. I just couldn't do it anymore!! So, I went home and called my husband at work. He wanted to come home and take me to the ER. I explained to him that i really felt like it would all pass. This though has been my excuse for some time now and is really beginning to wear on my husband. So he agrees that he will give me a little while to rest but if it didn't pass then to the ER we would go. I agreed. I was actually in pain and it was really strange. My chest was hurting really badly. I have reflux and it didn't really seem related to that although sometimes it can fool you into thinking you're having chest pain. It just somehow felt different, more intense and I was getting kind of scared. I fell asleep for a few hours. I had told the children that after it passed we would load up, pick the friend back up and head out to the pool. Well, I woke up with my oldest daughter telling me that it was getting to be evening that she had canceled plans with the friend and had already told her sister an dbrother that I hadn't gotten better and needed more rest. I thanked her and apologized. Now I really felt bad...for the kids. I just wasn't feeling better at all though. I got up and moved to the couch in the living room and turned the television on figuring atleast I could spend the evening with the children.
I knew at this time my husband would be on his way shortly and that he was an hour away from home. He has a 1hr commute each day both ways. So I didn't call and tell him the pain was wosening I knew he would be home as soon as possible anyway. He came in and saw my chest pain had gotten worse and said that's it...get ready to go to the hospital. This is serious. I agreed that it was time to go to the hospital as I didn't know how much longer I could take the worsening chest tightness and pain and was honestly worried about my heart and it failing.
Off to the emergency room we go...
We get to the ER and sign in (Erlanger Hospital Chattanooga, TN).
We waited for about half an hour and was taken in to Triage. They went ahead and ran an EKG in there to see what the urgency would be. EKG was fine...so back to waiting. After a couple of hours we were brought back. Somewhere along the way back my husband couldn't keep up (he has degenerative disc disease and doesn't go at the speed we do) so we lost him when the door locked on him. I met the Dr. and they wanted to first do a chest x-ray. They sent me off for it. Then finally got my husband in there with us. Now we have been back there for about an hour. Chest x-ray results come in and the Dr. comes in with the results. He is shocked and asks if we know anything about a tumor. We say no and then he proceeds to tell us that I have a very large mass in my lung and they are going to go ahead and admit me in the hospital to keep running more tests. They assure me they will do everything to diagnosis and get this taken care of along with running all of the other tests that go along with the complaints I came in with as the tumor was just an unexpected finding.
I woke up one morning and got out of bed like I had done thousands of other times. There were not too many days left of summer with my children home from school with me. We had just the day before took my nephews to the Atlanta airport so they could fly back to San Diego after a two and a half week visit with us. First things first today...was Registration Day at the kid's schools so we would spend a few hours doing that early in the day. It was also time to head back to the pool for some final days of relaxation in between getting the kid's ready for school to start back. We would also need to be pulling out the kids fall/winter clothes and be sorting through them and replacing what we needed to replace, then there would also be the million mile long school supply lists that all three would have to have ready in time to start back to school with. The day really started like any other day had and the children were excited about finding out who their teachers were going to be for the new school year, so the house was a buzz with talk about things like that. I straightened up the house for a few minutes then decided I would lay down and rest for a short while on the couch and watch some morning television before I had to get ready to leave and head out to the schools to register the kiddos. I had been having to do that more and more frequently for quite a while now...having to rest up between any physical things that I would do. I had just been feeling run down and worn out which I thought was to be expected out of a busy mother of three children.
After about a half hour of resting I went and got ready to leave for registration. First stop was to my son's elementary school. He was so excited. He got to see his class assignment and we headed down to the classroom and met his teacher. I filled out the necessary ton of forms as usual. I introduced myself to his new teacher and we spoke for a few minutes. Then it was time to make the mad dash to the middle school so I could get my 8th grade daughter registered. My oldest daughter had a friend that was going to meet us at the middle school when we got there and then ride down to the high school with us to walk around and see where her classrooms were going to be from her schedule. We arrived at the middle school and her friend met us out front. After figuring out where to go we were on our way to her homeroom class to get her class schedule and meet her homeroom teacher. A few more tons of paper to fill out. While picking up the papers I realized that I wasn't feeling so well but wanted to hurry up and move along figuring I could probably get back home and rest for awhile after everything was taken care of but I had really thought that by the time we left the high school whatever it was probably would have passed by then..I'm going to finish this blog tomorrow.
Ok well it isn't tomorrow, but time to finish anyway even if it is a wekk later!!
Ok so I went to the high school with all 3 children in tow and the good friend of my 10th grade daughter's. We arrive and we walk around and find all of the classes on her schedule. Everyone is havign a good time. I am really not feeling too bad but I am not feeling perfectly well at this point either. Then we made it through and started down the road heading back to the mountain, to home when we passed my sister and my nephew with his friends heading to the High school. They are upcoming Freshman! How exciting. So I swung a u-ie and decided that we would go and let my daughter and her friend be the upcoming freshman's tour guide figureing it would be good fun for everybody. Decided I was hungry so I let them out and they ran ahead while I ran with my two younger children down the road and back to Hardee's where we picked up ham biscuits for my crew. We finished eating in the car and I thought I was feeling a little bit better after eating and we went into the school to look for the older kids and my sister. We found them and was waiting while my sister was introducing herself and my nephew to his technology teacher. At this point I realize that I am getting sicker by the minute and was quite worried about making it home with the children. So I told them we needed to go really fast and that I would have to get home and rest before going on with the day.
We piled into the car and headed home. The children were really disappointed that we weren't going on to the pool as planned. I just couldn't do it anymore!! So, I went home and called my husband at work. He wanted to come home and take me to the ER. I explained to him that i really felt like it would all pass. This though has been my excuse for some time now and is really beginning to wear on my husband. So he agrees that he will give me a little while to rest but if it didn't pass then to the ER we would go. I agreed. I was actually in pain and it was really strange. My chest was hurting really badly. I have reflux and it didn't really seem related to that although sometimes it can fool you into thinking you're having chest pain. It just somehow felt different, more intense and I was getting kind of scared. I fell asleep for a few hours. I had told the children that after it passed we would load up, pick the friend back up and head out to the pool. Well, I woke up with my oldest daughter telling me that it was getting to be evening that she had canceled plans with the friend and had already told her sister an dbrother that I hadn't gotten better and needed more rest. I thanked her and apologized. Now I really felt bad...for the kids. I just wasn't feeling better at all though. I got up and moved to the couch in the living room and turned the television on figuring atleast I could spend the evening with the children.
I knew at this time my husband would be on his way shortly and that he was an hour away from home. He has a 1hr commute each day both ways. So I didn't call and tell him the pain was wosening I knew he would be home as soon as possible anyway. He came in and saw my chest pain had gotten worse and said that's it...get ready to go to the hospital. This is serious. I agreed that it was time to go to the hospital as I didn't know how much longer I could take the worsening chest tightness and pain and was honestly worried about my heart and it failing.
Off to the emergency room we go...
We get to the ER and sign in (Erlanger Hospital Chattanooga, TN).
We waited for about half an hour and was taken in to Triage. They went ahead and ran an EKG in there to see what the urgency would be. EKG was fine...so back to waiting. After a couple of hours we were brought back. Somewhere along the way back my husband couldn't keep up (he has degenerative disc disease and doesn't go at the speed we do) so we lost him when the door locked on him. I met the Dr. and they wanted to first do a chest x-ray. They sent me off for it. Then finally got my husband in there with us. Now we have been back there for about an hour. Chest x-ray results come in and the Dr. comes in with the results. He is shocked and asks if we know anything about a tumor. We say no and then he proceeds to tell us that I have a very large mass in my lung and they are going to go ahead and admit me in the hospital to keep running more tests. They assure me they will do everything to diagnosis and get this taken care of along with running all of the other tests that go along with the complaints I came in with as the tumor was just an unexpected finding.
Thursday, August 30, 2007
About ME
I am a 34 year old woman who lives in a small artsy mountain community in Tennessee. I just turned 34 on July the 23rd. My horoscope sign is Leo but I am on the cusp of cancer. Ironic huh? I grew up in Chattanooga, TN although I was born In Troy, New York. I have blonde hair and blue eyes. I am 5'6" and weigh about 125 lbs normally. Currently I weigh 147lbs. (gained quite a bit of weight when I went into and since coming home from my recent hospital stay). I am a Christian.
I am a stay at home mother of three children. My Children are as follows 15 yr old daughter, 13 yr old daughter and 7 yr old son. I am married to my second husband and I love him very much. We have had our ups and downs and challenges like everybody else. I care a great deal for him and we are very close. We have been together for 9 years now this fall. My first marriage lasted almost 7 years. My first husband was/is a very good person and he is a good father as well. I am the one that ended our marriage.
I have always had my mother in my life. I had a step-father from around 7 yrs old who was mostly my father figure growing up as my father wasn't around for much of my childhood. My step-father(David) and my mother were only married a few years. He always stayed around for me though after the divorce and I was close to him and loved him very much like my own father. He was a good father to me and a wonderful Pappaw to my children. He passed away in Dec. 2004 from cancer. My biological father is now in my life and has been since I was around 15 yrs old. He is married to my mother now and has been for about the past 7 years. He also is diagnosed with cancer. I will talk more about the other cancers in another post.
I grew up playing softball from the time I was 5 years old. I was a hind catcher and third baseman. When I started playing ball I was a first baseman and then a pitcher before moving to catcher and then 3rd base too when I wasn't catching. I was very good at softball and really loved playing ball. I roller skated a lot and was decent at it.
I have always been a person who loves to laugh. I even have learned to love laughing at myself. As a matter of fact I usually laugh hardest when I am laughing at myself. I smile a lot and usually will smile at or say hello to everyone I happen to cross paths with. I am overall a pretty happy and generally kind person. Although I wouldn't call myself happy-go-lucky. I have never mastered the art of being carefree. I am a worrier, planner and organizer instead. I am hardest on myself so I try to make good sound decisions the first time because I have always known that I am the one who will ultimately have to live with the consequences, good or bad.
I abhor lying/liars I see no point in it and think people that do feel the need to lie to get what they want or where they want to be in life are a waste of time, space and oxygen. They just need to grow up and learn to take responsibility for themselves. Some things I can be quite OCD or anal retentive about like cleaning/organizing, it mostly has to do with cleaning. I like it when things are symmetrical and everything has to be placed a certain way in my home(picture frames and decorations...that kind of stuff). I'm not a difficult person though, it mostly is just a funny thing about me, like any quirk someone may have.
I have never been the selfish or stubborn type. I am a giver and find it hard to ever be a taker. I would rather help others than be helped or need to ask for help. I am a quite thorough person and I have my own opinions about things and I see life as being mostly black and white with very little gray. If I make mistakes I own up to them. I have always been an honest, thoughtful, caring, compassionate, sensitive and selfless person. Sometimes, even to a fault. That is how I have always chose to be though...that is just who I am and how God made me. I've been told I give people too many chances, but you never know when it just might work that time around, always the optimist. Most of the time I am the glass half full type person.
I laugh at most things...I am very witty and find humor everywhere and in everything. I love laughing and do so often. Sometimes I even giggle and on occasion will even snort while laughing. Sometimes I laugh so hard my side and stomach cramp up. I have a very loud healthy laugh and when I met my current husband and he heard me laugh he later had to confess to me that the first time he heard me laugh it had scared him to death and he couldn't believe that big laugh came out of someone my size. I enjoy making others laugh constantly. I love making jokes out of things. I think I can make a joke out of almost anything. I call myself a co'mom'ian, instead of a comedian. My kids thought I should have tried to be on that reality show where moms were trying to become a comedian. Some people I know take this as immaturity or being air headed(because I'm a blonde), it isn't either one of them though and I would hate to have to live their lives without a good sense of humor and a lot of laughter. I just really love life and laughter.
I love conversation with a friend, or to have coffee/tea with a friend and to spend whole days or several hours visiting and catching up on/keeping up with each other's lives. I have a few friends that I have had for very long times in my life. My friends are family to me. There are certain people that I have known when I met them what level of significance they would have in my life, we just clicked immediately. All of my close friends in a lot of ways, not every way, but a lot of ways are just like me...on the inside. My friends have been there for me no matter what and have been so good to me. I can only hope I have been as good of a friend to them as they have been to me as I have been very blessed by their friendships. I love spending time at home with my family and to do things with my children. I love to go see my children do their activities, play their sports or sing in chorus. I love being a wife and mother, it is by far the best thing I have ever done in/with my life and I excel at it and have always felt blessed to have my family and my children. There is no better feeling in the world then the love I feel for my family. My children are my world, my everything, my reason for being. I have always showed them that and told them how much they mean to me every day. I have also thought that about them every day of their lives and the thoughts of loving them has made me smile and has warmed my heart everyday since their births.
I am intelligent I score in the top 2% on IQ tests. I am a more serious person for the most part. I know when not to be silly/make jokes. People who don't know when to be serious frustrate me. I am not a show off by any means, If anything I would prefer to be a wallflower in most situations. Most people see me as being the life of the party very outgoing type person or a person who draws a lot of attention when in social settings. Why people think these things I have NO idea they couldn't be more wrong but so many people have said things like that to me. I think that is so strange. I think maybe they confuse my confidence, looks and sense of humor with an outgoing nature because I am a very confident woman...I do have a lot of confidence in myself. I didn't have much confidence when I was younger and none really when I was a teenager. I really became confident around the age of 24. I had always seen confident people and wanted to be like that then one day it just kind of clicked, I even knew when I became more confident. Not only was it confidence but it was really more of when I came into my own I guess I would have to say. I spent a big part of my life wishing I was that other kind of person but I'm not and I am kind of glad that I am not. I have always liked who I am as a person all of my adult life. I am glad that I am the way I am, the good the bad and even with whatever quirks I may have. I over analyze everything layers and layers and layers deep and I love a good mental challenge whether it be a puzzle, a test, a debate, finding answers to obscure questions or information or learning about different things like different programming languages or code or solving difficult problems for people or myself even. I am also pretty competitive with things like games, races, competitions or something physically challenging. I am simple in a lot of ways but I am also very complex.
I have never had a weight problem or had to diet really, I just have really good genes. I know I am fortunate that way. Honestly though being skinny all of my life isn't as easy or better as some may think it would be, especially over weight people who complain about being over weight and getting picked on or made fun of because of it. Skinny people get picked on and people say mean things to skinny people too. Somehow it seems people think it is politer or more acceptable to make fun of someone if what they're making fun of is the more accepted by society thing. I got made fun of growing up for being anorexic, which I never have been. People used to ask me things like if I blew away when it was windy outside or would look at me from the side and say where'd you go and many other jokes of that nature. I even had a doctor tell my mom I was anorexic and that if I didn't gain (not exactly sure about the numbers here, but I know I'm close) like it was either 5 or 10 pounds in a couple of weeks that she was to bring me back in and he would send me somewhere to be treated for anorexia. He had asked her if I talked about weight a lot or was ever obsessed with my weight and she said "yes". The obsession was that I couldn't GAIN weight, I didn't think I was fat or heavy or anything like that. I mean wow there I was doing anything and everything I could do to Gain weight. That Dr. was apparently not all there. I weighed like 96 lbs at that time (my senior yr of high school) and it took me being pregnant with my first child to ever get over 100 pounds.
I as a 21 yr old found out that I had a goiter(enlarged thyroid gland, my body acts like my thyroid gland is bad or something and so it attacks itself) but because my hormone levels have never been "off" they haven't done anything about it. My Dr. that diagnosed it thought I should have it removed but I was too afraid to. I believe it has caused problems and have had a lot of symptoms for many years that people with too low thyroid function have, except the weight is as if the levels are too high. I always have been a medical mystery and this is just another medical puzzle. I do regret not having it removed at that time and was way under educated about the damage it could do down the road by not having it out.
I am a very attractive person, I like my looks. I feel conceited saying that but I am not a conceited person in any way and never have been conceited about my looks or anything else for that matter. I am just giving an honest assessment of everything about me and have it be as detailed as I can make it. I am trying to include everything about me and my life. Another thing about people judging or picking on...Quite often throughout my life women I meet act indifferent towards me before they even meet me or speak to me and I wish people would not judge me, or anyone else for that matter, by looks alone. I am a very approachable and nice person who does have interesting things to talk about. I have been told by many people all of my life that I am beautiful. My uncles and a lot of others told me my whole life that I should model but I didn't grow up thinking I was beautiful. I didn't think I was ugly but I definitely didn't think I was attractive enough to be a model. I thought people said it to me to encourage me and to be nice because they loved/liked me like a family member or friend should. I was in my 20s before it actually clicked that people really thought I should model. By then I already had my first child and was married and couldn't go and take off to model putting what I wanted before them.
I've never been stuck on myself or my looks. Someone who doesn't know they are attractive can't be that way, although, I know some people throughout my life thought I was that way. Funny how some people can know you but never "know" you or it may just be because they can't get past their opinions or jealousies. I guess those people never knew what I felt like inside about myself at that time in my life and like the fore mentioned jealousies and not being able to get past their own judgment, they never asked how I felt about myself either. It took me years like I said to actually see my outer beauty, On occasion I still have a hard time seeing it but I know that I am beautiful inside and out. I guess if I had any regrets that could be one and I do wish that I would have taken the time when I was younger to figure out who I was and do something on my own like modeling before having a family of my own. I was young when I had my daughter(18 yrs old) and got married for the first time(20). I do not regret making the choices that I made though. Having a child/husband brought me great joy in my life and I wouldn't change it for the world. That is why I made the choice, because that is what I wanted most...a family of my own. This really isn't a regret that I have it is more like wondering where other choices may have took me in life before I had a family. I guess more of a curiosity about what I could have done as a model really. People say the same thing to my daughter and I hope she will be able to have the chance to do modeling before making the choices of what she is going to do with her adult life.
I fight for what I believe in and stand-up for my beliefs. I am a strong but sensitive person. I guess if I have an inner struggle, that statement defines what and why it is. Some people see my sensitive side as being week, but it isn't a weakness. I think it is a good trait. My sensitive side makes me want to be a stay at home mom and a good wife to my husband. I went to cosmetology school and used to work as a hairstylist. Sometimes I miss it but am happier with what I do now. I don't work outside of the home, I do not have my own career. I do some work from home doing graphic design, programming and building websites. That is what some people in my life see as my being weak. I think it makes me old-fashioned. I grew up wanting to be a wife and mother and to have a husband that provided for me and our family while I took care of the kids/home. If anybody walked a mile in my shoes though they would see that in my life, with everything I have had to go through, I am a very strong person. A lot of people wouldn't be able to have lived my life and still put a smile on their face everyday and be as caring, happy, life-loving and as sensitive as I still am. I by NO means have had a bad life. I have just had a lot of challenges to overcome/cope with. Some were just what life gave me and others I created for myself with bad decisions. Everybody has their own challenges/problems in life and their own struggles. Nobody has it easy, everybody's life/struggles are unique to them. Some of us just make our lives look/seem easy, I guess, or you just haven't had to walk in their shoes. Life is too short to judge people, make fun of people for being different than you and definitely too short to be jealous of people. A really neat older woman whose hair I used to do told me with my ideas, likes/dislikes, decorating style, hobbies and just what I like in general that they thought I should have been born in a different time period. I somewhat agree. I love the mid/late 1800s through the early to mid 1900s. I know that I never could have lived without air conditioning, indoor toilets and refrigeration. I am also really glad that I got to live in the age of the PC.
I am mortal And I have never been perfect nor have I ever claim to be but even still I have lived where I have regretted very little in my life. I love who I am as a person and it took every decision and everything I have ever done, good or bad to make me who I am today. The mistakes that I have made in my life I do feel sorry for making them, if/when they have affected others I have apologized and tried to right them. The sins that I have committed I have asked God for forgiveness for and as a child of God I believe that I have received his forgiveness. I have grown as a person throughout my life I have never claimed to know everything but have eagerly learned about a lot of things, things of life and of myself. In life we are forever a student of life and the most important of the lessons we learn I believe is about ourselves, who we are and our purpose. I have loved greatly and been loved. I have been called Daughter, Granddaughter, Sister, Friend, Wife, Mother and Aunt. That to me is a Wonderful life full of many many blessings! My cup runneth over.
I am a stay at home mother of three children. My Children are as follows 15 yr old daughter, 13 yr old daughter and 7 yr old son. I am married to my second husband and I love him very much. We have had our ups and downs and challenges like everybody else. I care a great deal for him and we are very close. We have been together for 9 years now this fall. My first marriage lasted almost 7 years. My first husband was/is a very good person and he is a good father as well. I am the one that ended our marriage.
I have always had my mother in my life. I had a step-father from around 7 yrs old who was mostly my father figure growing up as my father wasn't around for much of my childhood. My step-father(David) and my mother were only married a few years. He always stayed around for me though after the divorce and I was close to him and loved him very much like my own father. He was a good father to me and a wonderful Pappaw to my children. He passed away in Dec. 2004 from cancer. My biological father is now in my life and has been since I was around 15 yrs old. He is married to my mother now and has been for about the past 7 years. He also is diagnosed with cancer. I will talk more about the other cancers in another post.
I grew up playing softball from the time I was 5 years old. I was a hind catcher and third baseman. When I started playing ball I was a first baseman and then a pitcher before moving to catcher and then 3rd base too when I wasn't catching. I was very good at softball and really loved playing ball. I roller skated a lot and was decent at it.
I have always been a person who loves to laugh. I even have learned to love laughing at myself. As a matter of fact I usually laugh hardest when I am laughing at myself. I smile a lot and usually will smile at or say hello to everyone I happen to cross paths with. I am overall a pretty happy and generally kind person. Although I wouldn't call myself happy-go-lucky. I have never mastered the art of being carefree. I am a worrier, planner and organizer instead. I am hardest on myself so I try to make good sound decisions the first time because I have always known that I am the one who will ultimately have to live with the consequences, good or bad.
I abhor lying/liars I see no point in it and think people that do feel the need to lie to get what they want or where they want to be in life are a waste of time, space and oxygen. They just need to grow up and learn to take responsibility for themselves. Some things I can be quite OCD or anal retentive about like cleaning/organizing, it mostly has to do with cleaning. I like it when things are symmetrical and everything has to be placed a certain way in my home(picture frames and decorations...that kind of stuff). I'm not a difficult person though, it mostly is just a funny thing about me, like any quirk someone may have.
I have never been the selfish or stubborn type. I am a giver and find it hard to ever be a taker. I would rather help others than be helped or need to ask for help. I am a quite thorough person and I have my own opinions about things and I see life as being mostly black and white with very little gray. If I make mistakes I own up to them. I have always been an honest, thoughtful, caring, compassionate, sensitive and selfless person. Sometimes, even to a fault. That is how I have always chose to be though...that is just who I am and how God made me. I've been told I give people too many chances, but you never know when it just might work that time around, always the optimist. Most of the time I am the glass half full type person.
I laugh at most things...I am very witty and find humor everywhere and in everything. I love laughing and do so often. Sometimes I even giggle and on occasion will even snort while laughing. Sometimes I laugh so hard my side and stomach cramp up. I have a very loud healthy laugh and when I met my current husband and he heard me laugh he later had to confess to me that the first time he heard me laugh it had scared him to death and he couldn't believe that big laugh came out of someone my size. I enjoy making others laugh constantly. I love making jokes out of things. I think I can make a joke out of almost anything. I call myself a co'mom'ian, instead of a comedian. My kids thought I should have tried to be on that reality show where moms were trying to become a comedian. Some people I know take this as immaturity or being air headed(because I'm a blonde), it isn't either one of them though and I would hate to have to live their lives without a good sense of humor and a lot of laughter. I just really love life and laughter.
I love conversation with a friend, or to have coffee/tea with a friend and to spend whole days or several hours visiting and catching up on/keeping up with each other's lives. I have a few friends that I have had for very long times in my life. My friends are family to me. There are certain people that I have known when I met them what level of significance they would have in my life, we just clicked immediately. All of my close friends in a lot of ways, not every way, but a lot of ways are just like me...on the inside. My friends have been there for me no matter what and have been so good to me. I can only hope I have been as good of a friend to them as they have been to me as I have been very blessed by their friendships. I love spending time at home with my family and to do things with my children. I love to go see my children do their activities, play their sports or sing in chorus. I love being a wife and mother, it is by far the best thing I have ever done in/with my life and I excel at it and have always felt blessed to have my family and my children. There is no better feeling in the world then the love I feel for my family. My children are my world, my everything, my reason for being. I have always showed them that and told them how much they mean to me every day. I have also thought that about them every day of their lives and the thoughts of loving them has made me smile and has warmed my heart everyday since their births.
I am intelligent I score in the top 2% on IQ tests. I am a more serious person for the most part. I know when not to be silly/make jokes. People who don't know when to be serious frustrate me. I am not a show off by any means, If anything I would prefer to be a wallflower in most situations. Most people see me as being the life of the party very outgoing type person or a person who draws a lot of attention when in social settings. Why people think these things I have NO idea they couldn't be more wrong but so many people have said things like that to me. I think that is so strange. I think maybe they confuse my confidence, looks and sense of humor with an outgoing nature because I am a very confident woman...I do have a lot of confidence in myself. I didn't have much confidence when I was younger and none really when I was a teenager. I really became confident around the age of 24. I had always seen confident people and wanted to be like that then one day it just kind of clicked, I even knew when I became more confident. Not only was it confidence but it was really more of when I came into my own I guess I would have to say. I spent a big part of my life wishing I was that other kind of person but I'm not and I am kind of glad that I am not. I have always liked who I am as a person all of my adult life. I am glad that I am the way I am, the good the bad and even with whatever quirks I may have. I over analyze everything layers and layers and layers deep and I love a good mental challenge whether it be a puzzle, a test, a debate, finding answers to obscure questions or information or learning about different things like different programming languages or code or solving difficult problems for people or myself even. I am also pretty competitive with things like games, races, competitions or something physically challenging. I am simple in a lot of ways but I am also very complex.
I have never had a weight problem or had to diet really, I just have really good genes. I know I am fortunate that way. Honestly though being skinny all of my life isn't as easy or better as some may think it would be, especially over weight people who complain about being over weight and getting picked on or made fun of because of it. Skinny people get picked on and people say mean things to skinny people too. Somehow it seems people think it is politer or more acceptable to make fun of someone if what they're making fun of is the more accepted by society thing. I got made fun of growing up for being anorexic, which I never have been. People used to ask me things like if I blew away when it was windy outside or would look at me from the side and say where'd you go and many other jokes of that nature. I even had a doctor tell my mom I was anorexic and that if I didn't gain (not exactly sure about the numbers here, but I know I'm close) like it was either 5 or 10 pounds in a couple of weeks that she was to bring me back in and he would send me somewhere to be treated for anorexia. He had asked her if I talked about weight a lot or was ever obsessed with my weight and she said "yes". The obsession was that I couldn't GAIN weight, I didn't think I was fat or heavy or anything like that. I mean wow there I was doing anything and everything I could do to Gain weight. That Dr. was apparently not all there. I weighed like 96 lbs at that time (my senior yr of high school) and it took me being pregnant with my first child to ever get over 100 pounds.
I as a 21 yr old found out that I had a goiter(enlarged thyroid gland, my body acts like my thyroid gland is bad or something and so it attacks itself) but because my hormone levels have never been "off" they haven't done anything about it. My Dr. that diagnosed it thought I should have it removed but I was too afraid to. I believe it has caused problems and have had a lot of symptoms for many years that people with too low thyroid function have, except the weight is as if the levels are too high. I always have been a medical mystery and this is just another medical puzzle. I do regret not having it removed at that time and was way under educated about the damage it could do down the road by not having it out.
I am a very attractive person, I like my looks. I feel conceited saying that but I am not a conceited person in any way and never have been conceited about my looks or anything else for that matter. I am just giving an honest assessment of everything about me and have it be as detailed as I can make it. I am trying to include everything about me and my life. Another thing about people judging or picking on...Quite often throughout my life women I meet act indifferent towards me before they even meet me or speak to me and I wish people would not judge me, or anyone else for that matter, by looks alone. I am a very approachable and nice person who does have interesting things to talk about. I have been told by many people all of my life that I am beautiful. My uncles and a lot of others told me my whole life that I should model but I didn't grow up thinking I was beautiful. I didn't think I was ugly but I definitely didn't think I was attractive enough to be a model. I thought people said it to me to encourage me and to be nice because they loved/liked me like a family member or friend should. I was in my 20s before it actually clicked that people really thought I should model. By then I already had my first child and was married and couldn't go and take off to model putting what I wanted before them.
I've never been stuck on myself or my looks. Someone who doesn't know they are attractive can't be that way, although, I know some people throughout my life thought I was that way. Funny how some people can know you but never "know" you or it may just be because they can't get past their opinions or jealousies. I guess those people never knew what I felt like inside about myself at that time in my life and like the fore mentioned jealousies and not being able to get past their own judgment, they never asked how I felt about myself either. It took me years like I said to actually see my outer beauty, On occasion I still have a hard time seeing it but I know that I am beautiful inside and out. I guess if I had any regrets that could be one and I do wish that I would have taken the time when I was younger to figure out who I was and do something on my own like modeling before having a family of my own. I was young when I had my daughter(18 yrs old) and got married for the first time(20). I do not regret making the choices that I made though. Having a child/husband brought me great joy in my life and I wouldn't change it for the world. That is why I made the choice, because that is what I wanted most...a family of my own. This really isn't a regret that I have it is more like wondering where other choices may have took me in life before I had a family. I guess more of a curiosity about what I could have done as a model really. People say the same thing to my daughter and I hope she will be able to have the chance to do modeling before making the choices of what she is going to do with her adult life.
I fight for what I believe in and stand-up for my beliefs. I am a strong but sensitive person. I guess if I have an inner struggle, that statement defines what and why it is. Some people see my sensitive side as being week, but it isn't a weakness. I think it is a good trait. My sensitive side makes me want to be a stay at home mom and a good wife to my husband. I went to cosmetology school and used to work as a hairstylist. Sometimes I miss it but am happier with what I do now. I don't work outside of the home, I do not have my own career. I do some work from home doing graphic design, programming and building websites. That is what some people in my life see as my being weak. I think it makes me old-fashioned. I grew up wanting to be a wife and mother and to have a husband that provided for me and our family while I took care of the kids/home. If anybody walked a mile in my shoes though they would see that in my life, with everything I have had to go through, I am a very strong person. A lot of people wouldn't be able to have lived my life and still put a smile on their face everyday and be as caring, happy, life-loving and as sensitive as I still am. I by NO means have had a bad life. I have just had a lot of challenges to overcome/cope with. Some were just what life gave me and others I created for myself with bad decisions. Everybody has their own challenges/problems in life and their own struggles. Nobody has it easy, everybody's life/struggles are unique to them. Some of us just make our lives look/seem easy, I guess, or you just haven't had to walk in their shoes. Life is too short to judge people, make fun of people for being different than you and definitely too short to be jealous of people. A really neat older woman whose hair I used to do told me with my ideas, likes/dislikes, decorating style, hobbies and just what I like in general that they thought I should have been born in a different time period. I somewhat agree. I love the mid/late 1800s through the early to mid 1900s. I know that I never could have lived without air conditioning, indoor toilets and refrigeration. I am also really glad that I got to live in the age of the PC.
I am mortal And I have never been perfect nor have I ever claim to be but even still I have lived where I have regretted very little in my life. I love who I am as a person and it took every decision and everything I have ever done, good or bad to make me who I am today. The mistakes that I have made in my life I do feel sorry for making them, if/when they have affected others I have apologized and tried to right them. The sins that I have committed I have asked God for forgiveness for and as a child of God I believe that I have received his forgiveness. I have grown as a person throughout my life I have never claimed to know everything but have eagerly learned about a lot of things, things of life and of myself. In life we are forever a student of life and the most important of the lessons we learn I believe is about ourselves, who we are and our purpose. I have loved greatly and been loved. I have been called Daughter, Granddaughter, Sister, Friend, Wife, Mother and Aunt. That to me is a Wonderful life full of many many blessings! My cup runneth over.
This is my new blog
I am starting a new blog as a way to journal about my life after my diagnosis with cancer. I plan on being a lot better at blogging from here on out. Funny thing is on my other blog my last post has my New Year's resolution of planning to blog more often and that is the last post I made to it. How funny we are with our plans in life. We live our lives with a "There's always a tomorrow" nonchalant attitude. Now I know every moment of everyday there isn't always a tomorrow. I will never live my life that way again, taking hours days, weeks or moments for granted. The thing is we never even think about it really or realize that we live that way, unless there is a day, a moment or something that comes along that reminds us all too well of our mortality and that day for me was the day I was diagnosed with Cancer.
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